Category: Teen Topics
So you're thinking, "Hey, wait already, we're just teens! Love is for adults only!" Of course, many people do choose to wait, but just because society says you automatically screw every guy who shows the slightest interest in you, its not necessarily true. We can love truly. In our early teens, we probably just flirt and "go out" with whoever's hot that week. But as visually impaired individuals, we have the advantage of going staright past looks and directly into personality, which truly touches the heart and makes you believe you're in love. Now, I've only had one relationship so far, but I feel that it was love, my first love, which also makes it special. But I had the advantage of dating a great guy, who I'm still good friends with. None of this wishy-washy preppy girl crap for me.
My belief is that blind people also mature faster. I cant really base that on statistical facts, but I can say that all my blindy friends, who are all around the same age as me, are a lot more mature than sighted teens. Maybe its because we're more likely to be bullied, or maybe we just have a tendency to mature faster.
Now, for the point of this article. No matter what parents and teachers say, if you're happy in your relationship, dont let anybody spoil your happiness. Its not worth it, everyone disapproved of my x, so I know how it feels, but dont take them seriously. Show them what your made of, and I hope all you teens on the zone can find somebody to love too.
hey niblet! I totally agree with you. I found radio man when I was a teen, and we're still going strong. I agree also with the idea that blind people mature faster. Well at least most of us. I think that some sighted people can as well, but it is like it takes something tramatic for people to grow quickly. I was bullied as a teen, and I think that helped me to mature faster, and see the world in a differnet light. I also know others who weren't bullied, but just had to deal with being blind, and that helped them to mature. I think it's great that the guy you were dating and you are still remaining friends. You're right to, most teens do have their first love when they are in fact teenagers.
though i havnt thought about blind people maturing faster, i agree. im visually impaired, and i dont give a hoot about looks, its all about personality for me.
First looks to matter. If I go out with a girl my sighted friends have to approve of her, second tean love is like Robert Downey Junior kicking his coke habbit, in theory it's possible but never will happen.
I agree with you that it's best to go for personalities, but not necessarily about the blind people acting more grown up. I mean, it may be true, but I'm not sure if it's because the person's blind, if not that they're just like that. That's a REALLY good point though. The way I work, I first like the guy, then I ask my friends about how he looks. If they think he's ugly, it doesn't really matter. It's just something I like knowing for some reason.
Lol well, bear in mind that this reply is coming from someone who isn't really part of the love scene at all yuet. Yes, I think teens can fall in love, if they're serious. However most of the stuff i see is people saying theyu're in love when they're not, just for show and to look "cool" with a boyfriend. I think that, thoguh blind people look past looks, no pun intended, they may not always mature faster and may still ask their friends about the person's looks and be judgemental that way. I don't care about looks either, as long as I look presentable hehehe.
Caitlin
It's important not to stereotype too much about those "bratty teenagers". I do think some teens are articularly mature enough to fall in love, but even people who aren't teens sometimes make love out to be less serious and more about attraction than it aught to be.
Teens can fall in love too, they should experience the first feelings of love then so they can get experiences. I fell in love with nearly 17 the first time, an internet relationship by the way and this guy fooled me badly, but well, I have an experience out of that!
Teen love is Uncertainty. it can not last cause its lust or if its love its hard to deal with it Infatuation can fit into place.
maybe its just crush or admiration not love
trueOne7, you're generalizing for all teens. There are differences in maturity rates.
Exactly, I agree. Not all teens are the same. And not every teen love is insecure.
I believe that teens can fall in love just as much as the average adult could. You are always hearing that so and so has had a "first true love" and the majority of it happend when they were a teenager. I fell in love with my fiance when I was 16 and he was 17. I'm very happy to say that we are still going strong!!! We went through hell from both sides of our family just to be able to be together and inspite of all that, we managed to pull through. I don't think that teens should be judge of not knowing their feelings just because of their age. And to those in love, more power to us!!!
Love, Sexy
Yeah sure, why not!!
I don't think ive been in love yet although ive got a boy ive never forgotten about. Ive been in relationships but i don't think ive found my first love yet.
hmm, hold on... is it said that bullying helps people grow faster? I have a firend who is in part mature, but when it comes to girls he ain't these kinds of personality looking bur rater how "hot" the person sounds... he calls these hotlines and now is really afraid since his phone bill went up almost to $2000.00... but well that goes of topic and also reveals some information I should not really say but anyways, I have had my first love and well this girl is pretty cool and a really good person, and I think most of the stuff described at the top of this board is true, I have been bullyed hmm, from 1 through almost 7th grade and well I think if it was not for the bullying I am not who I am right now...
I think it's best to look at the person's personality, because as they say it"Loooks can be deceiving." The guy/girl you're with could be the finest person in the world. But he/she treats you like dirt, you don't need him. You see, looks can't guarantee a lot of things.
Love is bullshit.
I agree with bg. What is love anyway?
Teen love, I think it's just lust, oh in some cases it may be love but I don't think teens realize it. Love takes time ya know? I believe that being blind is a gift and yes, no matter what we say, looks do have some effect on our attraction to someone, no matter how small an effect it is. I'm dating a guy and I know it's not love, or at least I don't think so. Love is not bull shit in my opinion either. Those who say that have been hurt in relationships before sand are therfore sneicle but love is there, does exist, and will find everyone in one way or another.
I think teen love is real.
I don't know about blind people being more mature cuz there are some pretty immature blind idiots out there, if you catch my drift.
And Jared, does that mean you won't let me love you?
What do you mean "What is love anyway?" Jes?
I think it's us people who likes our studies, books, and all, but I know a in crowd blindy. Hey, she's not particularly mature to me, but. Lol! People think I am so much older. It's the way I speak and the vocabulary I use, I think. Thus, the judgement comes down to it being I am about eighteen to about twenty. When I tell people my real age they jump. It's the books I read, I guess.
Anyone who thinks teen love is not true love is very deluded. I have found the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with and i will be 15 on Sunday. It does exist. People that say they never last are just jellous that it didn't work for them when they were teens. That is my appinion. *get's ready to be flaimed*
I've have been in true love twice. Once actualy got Engaged and I was only 15. I was truely madly deeply in love with him. People cant judge others, Just because you didint find your soul mate, or it didin werk out when you were teens, doesnt mean that it doesnt exist.
I have foun now a wonderful guy, pain/efects of the last one still come up..But it is managible.I'm hoping this one lasts.
Morgan
PS: I still miss my ex. You'll never forget YOUR 1st love No matter how menny ppl say YU do in time, trutfully you dont.
x? or ex's, morgan. lol just sayin
I agree with Morgs. U never forget your first love no matter what kind of experiences you had. Teen love is real, but most of the time, unfortunately, it is mistaken and disguised as lust. I have been on the whole dating someone for a couple of months scene, which usually fels like only a few weeks... Not fun... and very very lame. Then, there are the lovers that you r ashamed of... the ones that have treated u like shit and just want a good fuck or something to the effect of that. No... Teen love is just like adult love... U fuck up sometimes, and when u think u lost it all, this wonderful amazing person comes and sweeps u off your feet and makes you feel beautiful and loves you for the person that you r. I do believe that teens can find their soulmates at the age that we are... I have found mine, and even though we are not together, we still have the eternal love for each other and we know that some day, some day soon, we will be united... If you believe in it enough, and you hope for it enough, it will happen to you
I just read back over this, and I think I've changed my mind. People say teen love isn't real because, we're all just so damn crazy, and stuff happens. We don't have control over our own lives really, where we go and who we see, so if we do find love, sometimes we don't have the power to be with that person, if that makes sense. Also teens change, it's a very changey period in life. Child to adult, high school to college, and that's hard on love. But for some people, I think it's really a possibility. And I agree, either the blind people I know are very mature, or very blindyish.
I didn't fall in love till I was 22. This wonderful, amazing fantastic girl came into my life and changed it for the better, and I knew she was the one, even though she was only 16.
I remember my first girlfriend when I was 15. I refused to sleep with her because I thought I loved her too much to ruin her first time so young, so she slept with my best friend instead. I cried for hours, but looking back now, I know it wasn't love. It didn't come close to what I feel about Cala.
I also believe that no matter what happens, if love is strong enough and true, it doesn't matter what changes take place in ones life because if you want it enough, you'll make every effort to make things work, no matter what. I could not talk to Cala for a year, she could cheat on me, or steel all my belongings and I'd still love her just as much as I do right now.
Love is a strange thing. You think you've found it every time you fall for someone, but it's not until you really fall in love for real, that you realise that all the little crushes you had in the past that you thought were love, actually arn't the real thing. I believe it's possible for anyone to fall in love, no matter how old, young, tall or short, fat thin or whatever. It's an emotion, not a decision.
I'm just devistated not everyone seems to believe in that. Believe in love and it will always see you through. I don't think i'll ever find someone who I love as much as I do Cala, and I know I will definitely not find anyone who loves me like the love I've been lucky enough to have from her. If you find it, you'll know, no matter how old you are, and my advice to you is this. Don't fucking let it go, because it will ruin you forever, especially if you are to blame.
Andy
Admirable amazing sentaments from one of my most favorite couples!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I couldn't agree more with pretty much everything you both have said, especially Andy's bit about, "Don't ever fucking let it go." I did that, and it still eats at my soul every day, but he and I are "starting over" and I'm glad that's happening because even though he's dating someone, I know I'll come home to him... He has never left me or let me down, despite all the stupid shit I've put him through. He has never lost faith in me, and I have never lost faithin him, and now I have admitted my mistakes, and we can try to move on. I am smarter, wiser, more mature in dealing with things, and I am ready to grow and become. Now that I have made those changes, I knoww that he and I will be together soon... All my friends say that we are destined for each other, and I believe they are right. So, sorry for going off on a tangent, but Andy's right on the money when he said not to let love go. And no matter how old someone or teir lover is, love will still come nd you'll knowit when it does.
I think andy hit the nail on the head with his post. Don't ever let love go, because if u do, its gonna eat at u and you'll never be able to let it go.
Age means nothing the fact you are a teen or not makes no difference, I know some who were under 18 and acted as if they were 30. I know some 30 year olds who act 3.
I think a lot of people confuse love with lust. I know I have in the past, but that doesn't mean it's not possible, or that teens don't know anything about love just because they are young. If that was the case, then every parent should contradict their child every time he or she says "I love you". Sure, it's a different kind of love, but they still know they feel it. It seems that the only reason we expect people to wait for romantic love is because sexual things could be involved, and because of the responsibility of holding up your end of the relationship. Well, if two people are truly in love, they will be able to hold up their end of the relationship no matter what happens, and a romantic relationship doesn't have to be sexual right away.
true love rocks. no matter. what. age.